“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” – Norman Vincent Peale
The affirming power in this quote is why I am drawn to it. It tells us we have the power to make change if we have the desire and ability to first change within ourselves. Is it really this simple? I think not. In theory we're given the power to be the change we want to see in the world. In practice to commit to making change means complete honesty with ourselves. It would be false advertising should I pretend to be 'over and beyond' the bad juju that recently was dumped in my world. I cannot return to the before relationship with ease and grace if in my heart I still carry the heaviness of anger and disappointment toward the person that has me grasping at these words right now. How do we achieve forgiveness of another when inside we're still grappling with the emotional whiplash? Empathy. The ability to understand and share another's feelings from their frame of reference. So now I must set aside my hurt and frustration in order to explore another's perspective. I am thankfully at this point, just barely, after a few days of marinating in my perspective, and am trying to adjust my emotional barometer just enough to dive into forgiveness. Or understanding. Or the timeworn adage 'turn the other cheek'. How do I refrain from pouring out my heart's hurt? I'm still working on this, keeping thoughts of this E'ville Woman to myself, in order to see the deeper reasons for that person's actions. Only when I dig deep enough and tweeze apart the tangled roots of the matter will I return to our relationship...not the same as before but salvaged to some degree. And I know changing my thoughts to change my world will not happen overnight, it may take weeks. The time I spend reflecting, evaluating, and accepting will restore the good juju of my world which is what I truly want. In case someone else is in need of gentle change due to the actions of another, here it is again: "Change your thoughts and you change your world." It's a keeper.
On another note, I hope all those impacted by hurricane Ian find strength and support while rebuilding your worlds. ❤